Showing posts with label nag. Show all posts
Showing posts with label nag. Show all posts

Monday, May 2, 2011

How to Show Love and Appreciation for Someone With Alzheimer's--Carol's Thoughts

Joe, you get so much traffic on your blog and I thought I would give my impressions on how we caregivers/family members can emotionally support people with Alzheimer's and dementia.
    1. Don't do everything for me.
    2. Listen carefully and figure out the feelings behind what I am saying.
    3. Don't nag me. Create a checklist for me that helps me remember. The rest of the world has to use check lists also.
    4. Enjoy my personality—I am not the disease of Alzheimer's.
    5. Plan outings with me and don’t be embarrassed by whatever I do or say in public.
    6. Give me visual clues for memory including a calendar.
    7. Sing and joke with me.
    8. Bring me into your world.
    9. Say one thought at a time.
So Joe, since you are my Alzheimer's sounding board, what would you add to this list to make you feel loved and appreciated?

Carol

Friday, May 28, 2010

Pay Attention

Joe posted a few weeks ago about the fact that we have had some difficulity. He has had some issues and yes I was hurt by them. But in all fairness I guess I am to blame too. As you know he can still find his way around the computer and sometimes it gets him and others into trouble. So as a caregiver and as a spouse I am going to say that we need to ask questions when our other half is doing something that we are not sure of. We need to check the bank statements and credit card statements just to make sure there are no charges there that we do not know about. $10 here and there really add up. Also just like we do with our children we need to know who they are talking to. Whether on the phone or on the computer. So I am sure that we will have a few more arguments about how we nag and are trying to control things but, if we don't damage can be done that can not be forgiven or forgotten. Fortunately we are working on our end. So do not be surprised when he writes that I am being a nag and not liking me or others very much. We do it out of love.
Pay Attention to what is going on around the person you care for.
Lynn